Old crushes new problems

So me and one of my old crushes have been hanging out for the last couple months. We have been having a great time. I have realized though that my old feeling for him are coming back. He is such a great guy. He is funny, energetic, caring, he's a gentleman, very polite, and he makes me happy. I have a boyfriend that is 7 years older than me, we have been going out for 5 years. We don't have really anything in common and we don't really hang out anymore or do anything really. We go to the club and don't even talk to each other except to argue who is buying the drinks that night. We go to the occasional movie but again we argue who is paying and it always feels forced like we are doing it because we have to. Because that is what couples do. I have felt myself slipping away from him for a while now probably close to a year or so and I know he feels it to. He keeps asking me "why are you with me?" and "why do I stay?" every time we get in an argument. Now with my friend back in my life and my feeling toward him returning I find myself asking the same thing. Why am i with him and why does he stay with me????? Even if my boyfriend and I did split up there is no saying that my friend would share my feelings. He didn't in high school so why would he now. I love my boyfriend but I wonder if I am still in love with him or if it has become more like the love I have for my brother or other close family member????? I am afraid to say anything to anyone I know knowing that people talk and it may find it's way back to them. I am afraid that I am in a relationship that is only going to keep going badly until we just can't stand to look at each other anymore or that I do not have the courage to get out while I still can. I don't want to do anything without thinking about it longer. If it was to end I wouldn't want anyone thinking I did it to be with my friend like I said he has never shown any interest in me and still doesn't he is and has always been obsessed about another person and will not give up on being with her. I would not be leaving my current boyfriend for my old crush. That would be unwise on my part and I would not put myself nore them through it. I don't know what to do. I am afraid of acting for fear of the outcome and that I would be doing it for the wrong reason no matter weather I stay in my current situation or not. I wish someone who knew me and not them could give me some insight. Most of my friends and some of my family don't like or don't really care for my boyfriend so I can't talk to any of them because they would all be happy if I left him. I don't know what to do. I am lost. It has gotten to the point that I don't want to get out of bed in the morning. I just want to stay asleep and dream. In my dreams I am happy and i don't have to make any decisions. I don't dream about real events and that I am greatful for.